Jangan menikah dengan orang-orang ini

July 7, 2008 in Uncategorized

Pastor Pat Connor sudah berusia 79 tahun, dan menghabiskan waktu untuk mempelajari perkawinan.  Banyak orang percaya bila mereka jatuh cinta maka pernikahan mereka akan bahagia.  Menurut Connor, jatuh cinta bisa mengaburkan akal sehat.

Dalam sebuah artikel, kolumnis Maureen Dowd meringkas nasehat Pastor Connor, untuk tidak hanya jatuh cinta saja tapi juga melihat dengan jernih berbagai aspek calon pasangan:

• “Never marry a man who has no friends,”

• “Does he use money responsibly? Is he stingy?”.

• “Steer clear of someone whose life you can run, who never makes demands counter to yours. It’s good to have a doormat in the home, but not if it’s your husband.

• “Is he overly attached to his mother and her mythical apron strings? “

• “Does he have a sense of humor?”.

• “A therapist friend insists that ‘more marriages are killed by silence than by violence.’”

• “Don’t marry a problem character thinking you will change him. “.

• “Take a good, unsentimental look at his family”.

• “Imagine a religious fundamentalist married to an agnostic.”

• “Finally: Does he possess those character traits that add up to a good human being – the willingness to forgive, praise, be courteous? Or is he inclined to be a fibber, to fits of rage, to be a control freak, to be envious of you, to be secretive?”

Menurut Connor, jangan menikah dengan orang yang tidak memiliki karakter yang baik, meskipun anda jatuh cinta padanya.